Nate Soares, the Machine Intelligence Research Institute (MIRI) president and co-author of the bestselling AI-risk book 'If Anyone Builds It, Everyone Dies', which he co-authored with Eliezer Yudkowsky, has been publicly identified as the partner of Aella, a digital creator known for documenting her intimate encounters and habits. MIRI currently lists Soares as its president, a role he took on in 2023 after previously serving as executive director.
Aella, a digital creator who has previously made more than $100,000 (£74,755) in a month through OnlyFans, pointed directly to Soares during a public conversation about consensual non-consent. When someone online asked how to make that specific fetish feel more active, she replied that Nate handles it so well it is 'horrifying.' The New York Post has also reported that Aella has publicly described Soares as her partner.
AI Doomsayer's Unlikely Connection
During a post on Tuesday, Aella joked about a meme portraying Soares as a worn-out superhero, noting that 'nate really does look like that' following stretches of working continuously for two sleep-deprived weeks packed with overnight flights, group chats, emails, media appearances and meetings.
Soares has emerged as a prominent voice in the AI safety community, arguing that creating superhuman systems through methods similar to current approaches could result in human extinction.
Sharing his early goal in a personal essay, he recalled deciding as a teenager to protect the planet, first looking at political systems before discovering LessWrong and deciding that machine intelligence presented a far greater risk. Following a stint as a software engineer at Google, he moved to MIRI full-time in 2014 and stepped into the executive director role the year after. MIRI's own records confirm that Soares joined the organisation full-time in 2014 after previously working at Google.
He became president in 2023 as the group put greater emphasis on warning policymakers and the public about the risks of advanced AI, with Soares stating regarding his early goals, 'No, I promised to save the world,' and adding, 'That promise still stands.' MIRI says Soares transitioned from executive director to president while continuing to play a central role in setting the organisation's vision and strategy.
OnlyFans Star's Wild Birthday Gathering
Meanwhile, Aella's public writing provides a much closer look inside the private life surrounding a prominent voice warning against machine intelligence perils. In a post from February 2024, she shared that 'my partner and some friends' put together a birthday gathering for her that attracted 42 participants.
She did not identify her partner in that specific post, although she has separately publicly identified Soares as her partner. The post itself does not establish whether Soares was involved in organising the celebration.
In a detailed Substack piece exploring her personal desires, she recounted an experience at a gathering where three men restrained her while she put up a fight, taking care to emphasise straight away that it was a completely voluntary fetish.
Here's a photo of me today (along with a shawl I crocheted). Prob this isn't final tho there's still some swelling. pic.twitter.com/v0SHQODox1
— Aella (@Aella_Girl) January 25, 2026
'I'm at an orgy. Three men are holding me down as I struggle,' she wrote, before making clear that she found the encounter arousing and had consented to it.
Things turned awkward when a participant leaned onto her elbow, prompting her to call 'yellow' as a cue to pause and check if everything was alright. She later described the episode as a 'gangbang scene' to illustrate how some men pick up on physical cues better than others, while repeatedly urging readers not to confuse the rough imagery with non-consensual behaviour.
'All the stories below are CONSENSUAL, I don't regret any of it,' she wrote before diving into what she termed 'pretty graphic, specific examples' of fulfilling intimate encounters.
Extreme Kinks and 'Horrifying' Encounters
Aella has previously discussed rough consensual encounters in connection with Soares, praising his high-energy approach by calling it 'horrifying' while saying that the pair have recorded adult videos together. She has continued to share unfiltered details of her private routines in her public writing.
Nate v good at that it's horrifying
— Aella (@Aella_Girl) October 4, 2024
In a recent Substack update, she highlighted 'Slutcon', describing it less like a standard conference and more as a hands-on workshop designed to boost participant skills in dating and intimacy.
The same post featured a comparison of a new romantic interest and a previous partner. She claimed the new romantic interest possessed the ability to bring her to climax in roughly three to four minutes through oral stimulation. Meanwhile, her prior companion earned high praise, with female friends labelling his bedroom talents as 'legendarily good'. Aella did not identify either person in that passage.
Without naming either individual in her writing, she noted that achieving legendary status in intimacy requires an ego capable of welcoming fresh knowledge. She also said ticket demand for the gathering had overwhelmed organisers, with an influx of women applying to serve as interactive participants, and that the event had achieved an even balance between men and women once helpers were factored out. She wrapped up her promotion by encouraging visitors to drop by and flirt openly, adding that 'I love getting catcalled.'
AI Doom Meets 'Slutcon'
In the same Substack update, she opened her discussion of AI safety by outlining a surge of panic surrounding artificial intelligence safety after figures like Sam Altman, Anthropic CEO Dario Amodei and Elon Musk voiced support for pumping the brakes on development. The New York Post similarly reported that the three had publicly backed slowing AI development.
'My social circle is buzzing like someone just poured water into their anthill,' Aella wrote, adding that 'there's desperation and hope in the air.'
She also highlighted a Berkeley meeting tailored for individuals worried about artificial intelligence extinction risks, noting that representatives from AI safety organisations alongside a former OpenAI policy researcher would attend to speak. These details were presented by Aella in her public writing.
Meanwhile, Aella keeps writing about both topics. Following multiple paragraphs detailing machine intelligence existential anxiety in her latest update, she shifted focus to the other topic currently filling her mind:
'Slutcon is in a week and a half!' she wrote. 'It's going to be very good.'
